This could be considered a flaw; however, by default I choose to trust new people I meet because it makes the conversations less uptight.
Sometimes we just don’t have any idea if someone is being truthful and this does not become apparent until you start noticing a certain pattern in the way some people talk.
How many times have you heard someone say “To be honest…”? Funny thing is; to me, this means you’ve been lying for most of conversations with me. 🙂
Let’s say our friend’s name is “Larry”.
Me: Hello Larry! How are you?
Larry: I’m great! How are you?
Me: I’m fine, Thanks!
Me: How was your weekend? Did you do anything cool?
Larry: Yes, I went fishing with my son at the local lake and caught 5 large catfish.
Me: Oh, that is awesome! Did you eat them?
Larry: To be honest, they weren’t that big, so we let them go.
Talking about fish size is a white lie, but how far back does this go? Think about other things that Larry has talked about. Lying becomes a bad habit that can be hard to get rid of and until that happens, “To be honest” will be something you don’t see coming.